.Well presently im in 12th and all girls in my class are dumb struck ugly girls.None of them are worth talking to
It isn't actually. All depends on your perception imo.
One should try to adapt himself accordingly and be his own self.
There is no human who has flaws. "Flaws" are not "flaws". Again like I said, it depends on the perception. Every human is a human and has his own qualities. You should look for them and socialise in that way.
It might appear as if I'm talking contradictory stuff at first, but I'm not. It's very easy to understand. Adapt yourself so that you don't "hate" or "dislike" anyone. Be yourself as in just be yourself.
Be yourself as in just be yourself.
But majority of the people are _Not_ your friend. And a lot of them are just mean, selfish people who can back stab you the moment they are given a chance.
kinda offtopic but can't control myself :
That line 'adapting yourself not to dislike anybody' made me remind of a movie dialogue.
"Tum bahut acche ho, I like you" from ajab prem ki gazab kahani
Sorry to say, but you're thinking (wrong) too much. And stuff like "backstab" et cetera doesn't happen in real life. If you'll be "fake" - result will be troubles for your own self.Easier said then done.
Sometimes you "need" to be fake. Sometimes you have to say what people "wants" to listen, rather then what the "truth" is. Sometimes you have to give politically correct answers. You have to take care if what you are going to say is going to offend someone or not.
Of course, all of this doesn't matter if the subject in question is a "true" friend. You can be as blunt as you want to be in front of them.
Sometimes you have to choose between a social life (where you have to hide your true self) and your own persona (where you are don't have to hide anything). And majority of time the latter choice leads you to seclusion and loneliness...
Source: Personal experience.
Easier said then done.
Sometimes you "need" to be fake. Sometimes you have to say what people "wants" to listen, rather then what the "truth" is. Sometimes you have to give politically correct answers. You have to take care if what you are going to say is going to offend someone or not.
Of course, all of this doesn't matter if the subject in question is a "true" friend. You can be as blunt as you want to be in front of them.
Sometimes you have to choose between a social life (where you have to hide your true self) and your own persona (where you are don't have to hide anything). And majority of time the latter choice leads you to seclusion and loneliness...
Source: Personal experience.
See... you are talking about stuff like "backstabbing" et cetera. This stuff only happens in TV serials and computer games.Are the two questions related?
Aside to ico: You are way too confusing (and/or contradicting)! [achieving universal happiness - Ignore universal happiness.]
Anyway, what I can infer from your post is that you should be good to "everyone" be it if they are good to you or not. Well, sorry to say but such Gandhian ideologies don't work anymore.
But believe me, even though I have been following them since ever and no plans to drop it myself, I have learned something in the process of getting betrayal and getting misunderstood. You can just go as far as opening your heart out, love someone* and be honest about your feelings to them. In the end what matters is that they want an honest person or someone "who they can take advantage of (in less cruel words, "to gain something from")".
And I never said living secluded is a bad thing. I actually feel quite good. Being online, talking to someone who shares the same interests and passion like you, is far better than to be with someone who just want to "gain something" from you.
*love, of course in brotherly fashion.
Are the two questions related?
@nbaztec: Well, maybe I am not able to explain myself better. Maybe I am not too good at explaining feelings.
Sorry about that.
It's tough to understand it. Life isn't black or whote or shades of grey. It has colours too.The image is my reply, try to understand it and you shall find peace.
I said this - think and work towards of achieving universal happiness. If you can't think of that, then think of achieving your own happiness. Your own happiness will eventually lead to.....
It's tough to understand it. Life isn't black or whote or shades of grey. It has colours too.
The thing is....you're not trying to understand your own situation.Are you reading too much literature recently?
Anyway, sorry ico. Maybe we are poles apart in terms of where we stand right now in our respective lives. So we couldn't possibly understand each other's situation.
All I can do is to wish all the best to you. Cheers to our (=all members) lives.
No one forces you to do anything. You do it out of your own free will. You get it wrong. You are responsible. You fix it.
Could be, read that way back in school. But as far as I can remember, this was it. On second thoughts, it doesn't matter. Kabir's couplets are not meant for just quoting, but to convey the ever-important message.
