How's your social life/Help with social life.

[Desmond]

Split personality comes in use here.

"When in rome, do as the romans do"

Mingle with a group. At first don't talk. Laugh when everyone is laughing, talk only when asked...mostly observe how everyone is reacting. Body language, speaking language, attitude to different things. etc.
Then try opening up slowly. Start a topic or bring some chips some-day...literally force people to eat...etc you would be good.

Basically you are going to act like what you are not (I can't say what you are and what u are not... u decide) Everyone happy including you.

AT NO CONDITION, I REPEAT, AT NO CONDITION, show that you know better and more than your peer group. You know , you know the right thing, right procedure but your friends are there to goof-off not for a how to session. Open your mouth only when people ask your opinion.

There, secret revealed.

Hmmm...like Dexter Morgan. Pretend.

I tried hiding my knowledge, only to let someone else be labeled as the tech guy and not me, despite of his inferior skills. Then again, most of my friends/peers speak of bollywood and stuff, not something I dig or know anything special about. Actually, if I just stand quietly in the group, in sometime, I don't understand what it going on, everything seems incoherent.

What social life ?

You kidding, right?

Happens with me too. Usually I am the only one who laughs at my jokes. If at all others do, there's usually a 8 second lag. By that time it's too late.

Maybe you should attend a youth hostel trek. Atleast 7 days. At a place where mobile, internet is not reachable (or dont carry your mobile).

Yeah, this had actually worked once, when I went Goa (reluctantly) on a college trip. So, no gaming for me for about 15 days. I had actually opened up pretty well and was comfortable talking to girls.

 

[a_medico]

^^^ As I said, I am the only one who laughs at my jokes. But glad it worked for you. You should do it more often in that case.

 

[Neuron]

Good thing we have a_medic in here ,chill up baba he'll fix you.

 

[red dragon]

Get up early in the morning
and pray to God,say it LOUDLY
GOD,grant me the serenity
To accept the things,
I can not change.
Courage to change the things,
I can,
And wisdom,
To know the difference.

Trust me,it helps!!

 

[sygeek]

Get up early in the morning
and pray to God,say it LOUDLY
GOD,grant me the serenity
To accept the things,
I can not change.
Courage to change the things,
I can,
And wisdom,
To know the difference.

Trust me,it helps!!

Like I said..

 

[Faun]

I had actually opened up pretty well and was comfortable talking to girls.

Gist of this thread

 

[Vyom]

Makes friends with the people of your aptitude. Ignore morons. Simple actually.
Before I joined TDF, I used to felt like a sad lonely and loser soul everywhere. But after that I have hell lot of friends! Granted most of them are virtual. But hey, most I have talked and met personally too! And virtual good friends are better then real like moron friends!!

PS: Note to my real friends (if any of them are reading this): I didn't said all my real friends lie in that category! Discretion advised!

 

[Desmond]

But, apparently, despite being employed in the IT sector, no particularly smart individuals around me.

 

[Desmond]

First thing to do is to get rid of Facebook and Twitter, then life will become normal.

Facebook doesn't interest me any more, hardly go on twitter.

Either game or read novels these days.

 

[pratzgh1]

I am not a techy guy. I know general gadgets related stuff. Off lately i have become very low in life. I have just started working in advertising, having no experience in this field, i am working as an intern. Don't get paid anything other than travelling expenses.

I also do not get time as i travel 2.5hours either way to work. Although i love working, have a superb work environment. But the lack of time and money is making me mad.

I had a very nice muscular body, which i have lost due to lack of sleep and almost nil time for gym. (I love pumping iron).

Also i get no time to game. I am playing nfs run since 3 months now. (Thank god i played all good titles before the job).

I am losing interest in everything now. I have a good sense of humour. But i dont open up easy. I although love my job, i do not feel interested in hanging around my office mates. i get annoyed by them.

What has happened to me?

 

[sujoyp]

I think the best advice on this thread is rhitwik's

Split personality comes in use here.

"When in rome, do as the romans do"

Mingle with a group. At first don't talk. Laugh when everyone is laughing, talk only when asked...mostly observe how everyone is reacting. Body language, speaking language, attitude to different things. etc.
Then try opening up slowly. Start a topic or bring some chips some-day...literally force people to eat...etc you would be good.

Basically you are going to act like what you are not (I can't say what you are and what u are not... u decide) Everyone happy including you.

AT NO CONDITION, I REPEAT, AT NO CONDITION, show that you know better and more than your peer group. You know , you know the right thing, right procedure but your friends are there to goof-off not for a how to session. Open your mouth only when people ask your opinion.

There, secret revealed.

absolutely true...just try to understand what type of people r around u and talk to them what they understand....If u go on talking about rooting an android and ICS with non-geeks they will certainly avoid u.
What I generally do is randomly change the topic if it doesnt suits my friend .... at least 1 topic will fit in...but then u should at least have some knowledge about everything

 

[gopi_vbboy]

This.

Split personality comes in use here.

"When in rome, do as the romans do"

Mingle with a group. At first don't talk. Laugh when everyone is laughing, talk only when asked...mostly observe how everyone is reacting. Body language, speaking language, attitude to different things. etc.
Then try opening up slowly. Start a topic or bring some chips some-day...literally force people to eat...etc you would be good.

Basically you are going to act like what you are not (I can't say what you are and what u are not... u decide) Everyone happy including you.

AT NO CONDITION, I REPEAT, AT NO CONDITION, show that you know better and more than your peer group. You know , you know the right thing, right procedure but your friends are there to goof-off not for a how to session. Open your mouth only when people ask your opinion.

There, secret revealed.

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Feel lucky.Currently in my workplace i don't have a team.So be happy with what you have.Never get low.Remember money is not everything.

I am not a techy guy. I know general gadgets related stuff. Off lately i have become very low in life. I have just started working in advertising, having no experience in this field, i am working as an intern. Don't get paid anything other than travelling expenses.

I also do not get time as i travel 2.5hours either way to work. Although i love working, have a superb work environment. But the lack of time and money is making me mad.

I had a very nice muscular body, which i have lost due to lack of sleep and almost nil time for gym. (I love pumping iron).

Also i get no time to game. I am playing nfs run since 3 months now. (Thank god i played all good titles before the job).

I am losing interest in everything now. I have a good sense of humour. But i dont open up easy. I although love my job, i do not feel interested in hanging around my office mates. i get annoyed by them.

What has happened to me?

 

[umeshtangnu]

What life .

 

[pratzgh1]

Feel lucky.Currently in my workplace i don't have a team.So be happy with what you have.Never get low.Remember money is not everything.

I like my job bro. And hope i get money. Because, nothing in this world makes me happy than a wallet filled with green and pink notes . (As of now, i just wish of having this and that, cannot afford it )

Lets hope, life's kachha road soon meets a Highway.

 

[a_medico]

^^ A bad phase, which happens to everyone in life. Nothing lasts forever. Key is to hang in there and not get frustrated. And there will definitely be something positive out of it which will help you later in your life and you will thank it.

 

[pratzgh1]

Thanks bro.. I will stick around. Well, just yesterday i was frustrated thinking all this, as when i was about to leave at 7pm, i was given some research work that took almost 3 hours. While returning home was filled with this frustration as i had a 2.5 hours journey to do and to top it all a guy stepped on my leg, started an argument when i pulled my leg from underneath his leg (which made him kind of loose balance).

Well, he then pushed me and i ended up with a vicious punch on his face. Result: He was scared to hell and trembled up to apologize. i too apologized, got off the train and spent whole time ever since regretting my behavior. Also have swollen knuckles (Imagining what must he be going through). All my life i have never hit any one. I have threatened people during arguments but this was way too much.

I hope i will never do such thing again and let this frustration dwell ever again.

 

[Vyom]

@pratzgh1: What you did by punching him was wrong. But what you did by sharing that and apologizing, was a sign of good behavior. And you guessed it right about it being the anger due to frustration.

Anger makes us do stupid things. Key is to identify it before you do damage that can't be undone. I hope for the best for you!

 

[pratzgh1]

Thanks a lot bro. I did apologize to him too. This incidence has got my fellow life mates (parents, gf, friends, etc) very worried (As i am a very happy person and have never been physical with anybody til date). They are advising me to quit this job and search for a new one. I love my job, just not the people in it, and timings. I appreciate your understanding.

 

[Desmond]

I actually try to refrain from spreading all my gyan, but I cannot stand misinformation either. So, when I hear my peers discussing misinformation, I cannot help but show them what's right.
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[Psychosocial]

I know i am late to post over here but thats only coz i want to share something. Since the last six months, i had completely transformed myself. I left everything i liked. Tech, gaming, metal, guitar, etc and became a normal guy. Trust me, its not hard to talk to people. Its very easy coz non-geeks are stupid. I learned how to talk to girls, i made a lot of new friends, hell i even bought a dam blackberry! But now i am regretting wasting the last six months of my life. All i did was roam around with my friends, sit around and waste time. Socialising is highly over-rated. People are selfish. People are horrible, disgusting and mostly stupid. The only good that came out of this whole cherade was that i learned how to talk to and manipulate girls. Otherwise it was time well wasted. Pardon my typos, i am online from my ipad and still havent got the hang of its virtual keyboard .