How's your social life/Help with social life.

theserpent

Firecracker to the moon
i feel i bore girls ;) .Well presently im in 12th and all girls in my class are dumb struck ugly girls.None of them are worth talking to
 

ico

Super Moderator
Staff member
I tried that out quite long ago. Quite boring . In my opinion, socializing in real world is pretty different than the virtual world.
It isn't actually. All depends on your perception imo.

One should have all types of socialising skills and abilities. Otherwise one is not a complete human.
 

Faun

Wahahaha~!
Staff member
Hey, serpent, change your skool to lovely professional school. That's the only solution.
 

the_conqueror

Ambassador of Buzz
It isn't actually. All depends on your perception imo.

Moreover, it connects you to some random person to talk. So it's your luck that to what kinda' person have you been connected. I always got connected to morons, except once. Never tried the Video Chat option on it.

One should have all types of socialising skills and abilities. Otherwise one is not a complete human.

I didn't say that it is bad to socialise virtually. I just said its quite different than socialising in real life. And all humans have flaws, if they don't , then they aren't human.
 

ico

Super Moderator
Staff member
Moreover, it connects you to some random person to talk. So it's your luck that to what kinda' person have you been connected. I always got connected to morons, except once. Never tried the Video Chat option on it.
One should try to adapt himself accordingly and be his own self.

It can be hard at times....but it is possible. :)

I didn't say that it is bad to socialise virtually. I just said its quite different than socialising in real life. And all humans have flaws, if they don't , then they aren't human.
There is no human who has flaws. "Flaws" are not "flaws". Again like I said, it depends on the perception. Every human is a human and has his own qualities. You should look for them and socialise in that way.
 

the_conqueror

Ambassador of Buzz
One should try to adapt himself accordingly and be his own self.
second part of your statement contradicts
the first one. You're saying to 'be his own self' and ' to adapt accordingly'.

Our thoughts are likely to be different. Maybe because of our age. I'm 15 and you're in your 20s.
 

ico

Super Moderator
Staff member
second part of your statement contradicts
the first one. You're saying to 'be his own self' and ' to adapt accordingly'.

Our thoughts are likely to be different. Maybe because of our age. I'm 15 and you're in your 20s.
It might appear as if I'm talking contradictory stuff at first, but I'm not. It's very easy to understand. Adapt yourself so that you don't "hate" or "dislike" anyone. Be yourself as in just be yourself. :)

And I'm not in my 20s. Consider me of your own age.
 

Vyom

The Power of x480
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Be yourself as in just be yourself. :)

Easier said then done.
Sometimes you "need" to be fake. Sometimes you have to say what people "wants" to listen, rather then what the "truth" is. Sometimes you have to give politically correct answers. You have to take care if what you are going to say is going to offend someone or not.
Of course, all of this doesn't matter if the subject in question is a "true" friend. You can be as blunt as you want to be in front of them. :) But majority of the people are _Not_ your friend. And a lot of them are just mean, selfish people who can back stab you the moment they are given a chance.

Sometimes you have to choose between a social life (where you have to hide your true self) and your own persona (where you are don't have to hide anything). And majority of time the latter choice leads you to seclusion and loneliness...

Source: Personal experience.
 

nbaztec

Master KOD3R
kinda offtopic but can't control myself :

That line 'adapting yourself not to dislike anybody' made me remind of a movie dialogue.
"Tum bahut acche ho, I like you" from ajab prem ki gazab kahani
;)

Maybe this is why people don't like to hang out with you. If you're gonna quote something make sure, it's either one of these:
  • Out of a bestseller novel
  • Out of a box office hit
  • Out of an uber awesome game
  • Something original and witty
  • Not lame
  • Not a meme
  • Not related to Pokemon
  • Your voice doesn't remind anyone of Justin Beiber

Just saying. Be thyself, thy neighbor will love you.

@Vy0m: Condolences.
 

ico

Super Moderator
Staff member
Easier said then done.
Sometimes you "need" to be fake. Sometimes you have to say what people "wants" to listen, rather then what the "truth" is. Sometimes you have to give politically correct answers. You have to take care if what you are going to say is going to offend someone or not.
Of course, all of this doesn't matter if the subject in question is a "true" friend. You can be as blunt as you want to be in front of them. :) But majority of the people are _Not_ your friend. And a lot of them are just mean, selfish people who can back stab you the moment they are given a chance.

Sometimes you have to choose between a social life (where you have to hide your true self) and your own persona (where you are don't have to hide anything). And majority of time the latter choice leads you to seclusion and loneliness...

Source: Personal experience.
Sorry to say, but you're thinking (wrong) too much. And stuff like "backstab" et cetera doesn't happen in real life. If you'll be "fake" - result will be troubles for your own self.

If majority of people are not your friend, that doesn't mean that you're not their friend and you'll be bad to them. Introspect yourself and be everyone's friend. That is the only way of achieving universal happiness.

Ignore universal happiness. Then the only way to achieve that is personal happiness.
 

nbaztec

Master KOD3R
Easier said then done.
Sometimes you "need" to be fake. Sometimes you have to say what people "wants" to listen, rather then what the "truth" is. Sometimes you have to give politically correct answers. You have to take care if what you are going to say is going to offend someone or not.
Of course, all of this doesn't matter if the subject in question is a "true" friend. You can be as blunt as you want to be in front of them. :) But majority of the people are _Not_ your friend. And a lot of them are just mean, selfish people who can back stab you the moment they are given a chance.

Sometimes you have to choose between a social life (where you have to hide your true self) and your own persona (where you are don't have to hide anything). And majority of time the latter choice leads you to seclusion and loneliness...

Source: Personal experience.

*i.imgur.com/UvClQ.jpg

You're wrong. I don't have a habit of cracking lame jokes, i just say what I have in my mind. I agree with ico on his being yourself and adapting yourself idea.
I know very well that who is worth of my friendship and love, those who aren't, i just say them go f*** off, and i'll be saying the same to you.

Boli ek amol hai, jo koi bolai jaani, Hiye taraju tol ke tab mukh bahar aani.
 

Vyom

The Power of x480
Staff member
Admin
Vyom, r u my alter ego? Have I really gone mad at last?

Are the two questions related? :?

Aside to ico: You are way too confusing (and/or contradicting)! [achieving universal happiness - Ignore universal happiness.]

Anyway, what I can infer from your post is that you should be good to "everyone" be it if they are good to you or not. Well, sorry to say but such Gandhian ideologies don't work anymore.

But believe me, even though I have been following them since ever and no plans to drop it myself, I have learned something in the process of getting betrayal and getting misunderstood. You can just go as far as opening your heart out, love someone* and be honest about your feelings to them. In the end what matters is that they want an honest person or someone "who they can take advantage of (in less cruel words, "to gain something from")".

And I never said living secluded is a bad thing. I actually feel quite good. Being online, talking to someone who shares the same interests and passion like you, is far better than to be with someone who just want to "gain something" from you.


*love, of course in brotherly fashion.

@nbaztec: Well, maybe I am not able to explain myself better. Maybe I am not too good at explaining feelings.
Sorry about that. :oops:
 

ico

Super Moderator
Staff member
Are the two questions related? :?

Aside to ico: You are way too confusing (and/or contradicting)! [achieving universal happiness - Ignore universal happiness.]

Anyway, what I can infer from your post is that you should be good to "everyone" be it if they are good to you or not. Well, sorry to say but such Gandhian ideologies don't work anymore.

But believe me, even though I have been following them since ever and no plans to drop it myself, I have learned something in the process of getting betrayal and getting misunderstood. You can just go as far as opening your heart out, love someone* and be honest about your feelings to them. In the end what matters is that they want an honest person or someone "who they can take advantage of (in less cruel words, "to gain something from")".

And I never said living secluded is a bad thing. I actually feel quite good. Being online, talking to someone who shares the same interests and passion like you, is far better than to be with someone who just want to "gain something" from you.


*love, of course in brotherly fashion.
See... you are talking about stuff like "backstabbing" et cetera. This stuff only happens in TV serials and computer games.

"Gaining something from you" - this also happens in TV serials.

I am not contradicting myself at all. I said this - think and work towards of achieving universal happiness. If you can't think of that, then think of achieving your own happiness. Your own happiness will eventually lead to..... :)
 

nbaztec

Master KOD3R
Are the two questions related? :?
@nbaztec: Well, maybe I am not able to explain myself better. Maybe I am not too good at explaining feelings.
Sorry about that. :oops:

The image is my reply, try to understand it and you shall find peace. :)
 

the_conqueror

Ambassador of Buzz
*i.imgur.com/UvClQ.jpg



Boli ek amol hai, jo koi bolai jaani, Hiye taraju tol ke tab mukh bahar aani.

I think i got you wrong. Editing my posts. Sorry for the abusive language. I don't really like talking crap but people force me into talking that stuff. I'm too short-tempered.
Ico's posts forced me to think over that whether i've done good by using crap language, obviously not. My apologies for that. And you got that couplet wrong. AFAIK, it is :
Boli ek amol hai, jo koi bolai jaani, lakh taraju tol ke tab mukh bahar aani
 

Vyom

The Power of x480
Staff member
Admin
Introspect yourself and be everyone's friend. That is the only way of achieving universal happiness.
Ignore universal happiness. Then the only way to achieve that is personal happiness.

I said this - think and work towards of achieving universal happiness. If you can't think of that, then think of achieving your own happiness. Your own happiness will eventually lead to..... :)

It's tough to understand it. Life isn't black or whote or shades of grey. It has colours too. :)

Are you reading too much literature recently? :?

Anyway, sorry ico. Maybe we are poles apart in terms of where we stand right now in our respective lives. So we couldn't possibly understand each other's situation.

All I can do is to wish all the best to you. Cheers to our (=all members) lives. :toast:
 

ico

Super Moderator
Staff member
Are you reading too much literature recently? :?

Anyway, sorry ico. Maybe we are poles apart in terms of where we stand right now in our respective lives. So we couldn't possibly understand each other's situation.

All I can do is to wish all the best to you. Cheers to our (=all members) lives. :toast:
The thing is....you're not trying to understand your own situation.

You need to look into yourself properly.
 

nbaztec

Master KOD3R
I think i got you wrong. Editing my posts. Sorry for the abusive language. I don't really like talking crap but people force me into talking that stuff. I'm too short-tempered.
Ico's posts forced me to think over that whether i've done good by using crap language, obviously not. My apologies for that.
No one forces you to do anything. You do it out of your own free will. You get it wrong. You are responsible. You fix it.

And you got that couplet wrong. AFAIK, it is :
Boli ek amol hai, jo koi bolai jaani, lakh taraju tol ke tab mukh bahar aani
Could be, read that way back in school. But as far as I can remember, this was it. On second thoughts, it doesn't matter. Kabir's couplets are not meant for just quoting, but to convey the ever-important message.

Advising you on this, keep this "Don't like me so fvck off" up and life will turn out to be an unpleasant experience, my friend.

@Vy0m, Your only problem is you think too much. You attach yourself to everyone emotionally and try to be the best that they deserve. Sometimes they might not reciprocate, other times they will. But you do. There lies your problem. You forget that people are in fact humans. They are capable of showing multiple emotions, sometimes in the blink of an eye. You get "betrayed", "backstabbed", "mistreated", etc. But you take that on yourself and make your life miserable. You might forgive them for behaving that way, bt you can't forgive yourself for the trust you had in them. You need to do that and let it go. And remember: Life isn't just black or white, but million shades of grey.
 
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