the_conqueror
Ambassador of Buzz
@DeSmOnD dAvId , I am also suffering from same kinda' problem. I become friends easily with people who are of my kind or who love the tech stuff, but making friends with girls seems quite a daunting task.
How's your social life/Help with social life.
rhitwick
Democracy is a myth
Acceptance is the keyword. At any time, any phase if you can accept yourself, love yourself for the way you are...problem solved.
You would be happy.
Problem arises when we start to think we are not normal, we crave to be common, a part of mass. Actually being in the mass at times gives you the illusion of happiness. But, at the end of the day, you realize you were involved into something which you did not enjoy, did not like too.
If you want to be happy. Accept yourself.
If you just want to mingle with people, FAKE. Everyone does it.
You would be happy.
Problem arises when we start to think we are not normal, we crave to be common, a part of mass. Actually being in the mass at times gives you the illusion of happiness. But, at the end of the day, you realize you were involved into something which you did not enjoy, did not like too.
If you want to be happy. Accept yourself.
If you just want to mingle with people, FAKE. Everyone does it.
OP
That's easier said than done. I find it hard in that matter to put up with small talk, though I try my best. I wonder how people are so eloquent about stuff while I fumble with words when I want to express myself. When I am hardly done talking, people will stop listening and carry on talking among themselves, making me feel like a jackass. This fills me with anger and frustration.
Indeed, I think its all in my mind. Cant shake it off though.
The test says that I don't have a social phobia. Looks like a good sign.
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R2K
In the Zone
Does this happen with same group of people?
In that case Maybe you should start looking for another group of people/friends to hang out with
Good advice. But hard to implement
OP
Then that would become almost everybody.
Almost every doesn't include everyone. So its better to start with whom talk a little. You will learn the art but it will be slow and steady.
In the meantime invest your time in some good hobbies. Sure to find friends, online or offline doesn't matter much.
I suggest you to try out Omegle. You'll make many friends over there and love to talk with them!
Trust me.
the_conqueror
Ambassador of Buzz
theserpent
Firecracker to the moon
I can't talk to friends who don't talk about Computers etc.Except a few(maybe 4-5) friends whom i dont talk about computers.
The main problem is people who i hardly talk to god knows what to say to them
The main problem is people who i hardly talk to god knows what to say to them
the_conqueror
Ambassador of Buzz
Just go and say 'HI ! Wassup' , and talk to them about their studies, most recent movie released, music and so on. Their is so much to talk about. The real problem comes when talking to a person of opposite sex.
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theserpent
Firecracker to the moon
^^ Yup.Exactly
with girls i cant talk at all..All it comes
Me:Hey
Girl:Hey
Me:Sup
she:NM
THEN DONE DEAD!
Before with the same girl(When we were in school)we would talk about studies etc now nothing
with girls i cant talk at all..All it comes
Me:Hey
Girl:Hey
Me:Sup
she:NM
THEN DONE DEAD!
Before with the same girl(When we were in school)we would talk about studies etc now nothing
the_conqueror
Ambassador of Buzz
^^Talk about movies. Girls love movies(most of them).
theserpent
Firecracker to the moon
^Maybe.But they hate geeks .
I cant understand what to do soo many boys talk
with them
:foreveralone:
.I cant understand what to do soo many boys talk
with them :foreveralone:
the_conqueror
Ambassador of Buzz
^Maybe.But they hate geeks
I cant understand what to do soo many boys talk
:foreveralone:
You're wrong bro. If girls hated geeks then most of the geeks would remain single throughout their life. That's not true. A girl won't ask you, that would you like talking to me. Its you who need to go and talk to her.
I have just 1-2 friends which are girls. Most of girls bore me a lot by there insensible talks. So I talk only to those who are worth talking to.
PS- Did you have a crush on anyone during your school life ?
