Is looking Handsome A MUST for todays World?
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she is an INTP kinda personality.@Tech Wiz: I got the opposite problem with my girlfriend...she doesn't talk at all...
Quiz_Master
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Is looking Handsome A MUST for todays World?
OFCOURSE!!!
Not only that a boy must also be rich... heck....
Isn't being a top of the field enough..? nooo...
They just don't care how are you from inside... (Maybe thats why most girls dont like coconuts...).
Money looks..Thats all matters to them...
And even if it seems they care for you.. There is some SH!TTY Meaning behind it. A girl might not be perfect in doing most of the things but she is perfect in making people do those things for them.
As someone genius said : "A girl's biggest asset is her Lie-Ability."
OFCOURSE!!!
Not only that a boy must also be rich... heck....
Isn't being a top of the field enough..? nooo...
They just don't care how are you from inside... (Maybe thats why most girls dont like coconuts...).
Money looks..Thats all matters to them...
And even if it seems they care for you.. There is some SH!TTY Meaning behind it. A girl might not be perfect in doing most of the things but she is perfect in making people do those things for them.
As someone genius said : "A girl's biggest asset is her Lie-Ability."
Aberforth
The Internationalist
Looking good is not a MUST, however it does help, especially in India where every field of speciality is overcrowded. Good looks count for about the first minute or so, whether it can carry on or fails later, depends on the person. Looks are a part of a person, not the whole being and need to be treated as such. Unless of course, if one is in a profession that emphasises on looks.
I have a girlfriend that I live with and I believe in love, but I don't believe in marriage. Where would I fit in, if there were only two classification systems?
I have to disagree here. Love is an illusion to a person who can't understand what love is - the emotional connection between two people in love. It has nothing to do with whether a person has no girlfriend or has dozens of girls, although it is often used as an excuse by the former. Marriage isn't necessarily an indicator of love, a couple could be married for 30 years and yet treat it like a business agreement for procreation and life process. In India, its more often the norm than exception.
I have a girlfriend that I live with and I believe in love, but I don't believe in marriage. Where would I fit in, if there were only two classification systems?
Agreed. The only sex education people in India get are from dubious sources like peers, porn or scientific "Life Process" chapters in Biology books. These aren't really helpful in teaching people about sex, they just explain copulation from a biological instinct point of view.
She could be an introvert or maybe she doesn't have a lot of things to talk with you.@Tech Wiz: I got the opposite problem with my girlfriend...she doesn't talk at all...
abhi_10_20
Cool and Calm
in general, one thing i have learnt is, its very very hard to guess at what girls think..... u just can't assume that if you act like this, she will react in a way which u had anticipated... and most times, your guess would be wrong...
faraaz
Evil Genius
@Aberforth, Dominator, T159: Hmm lets see...
She's not INTP...more of ENFP ... I'm an INTP actually...just had my MBTI last week!
She's Indian...
We've been dating for close to 5 years now...of which 4 have been long distance relationship (I was in Australia for 3.5 years and now already half a year in Switzerland) ... so that could be one reason we don't have as much small talk as any regular couple...plus we've been together for REALLY long so we don't need to talk that much!
Of course, I'm talking about conversation which doesnt deal with every day life and current events and the obligatory bf/gf stuff...hmm...we just spend what little time we get together doing more important stuff...
She's not INTP...more of ENFP ... I'm an INTP actually...just had my MBTI last week!
She's Indian...
We've been dating for close to 5 years now...of which 4 have been long distance relationship (I was in Australia for 3.5 years and now already half a year in Switzerland) ... so that could be one reason we don't have as much small talk as any regular couple...plus we've been together for REALLY long so we don't need to talk that much!
Of course, I'm talking about conversation which doesnt deal with every day life and current events and the obligatory bf/gf stuff...hmm...we just spend what little time we get together doing more important stuff...
The Outsider
Beneath The Eyelids
^ that sounds like the key to having a strong relationship, the usual bf/gf stuff for hours on phone and face to face just turns out bad in the end i guess.
faraaz
Evil Genius
Hmm...consider this...since 2003 I've done my B Sc with a Biotech & Microbiology major in Australia, worked for 8 months in my family business and immediately left for Switzerland where I am doing my MBA in Finance and at the same time rapidly becoming fluent in German. At the same time, since I passed out from year 12, I've been with my current girlfriend whom I must say I am very much in love with and plan to marry as soon as I return to India after working abroad for a couple of years...
Of course, that's if we manage to get around the whole Hindu (she) - Muslim (me) problem our families are going to have...but that's not the issue here. The point I am trying to make is that its not easy to do both at the same time but it is definitely possible to pursue both career and love simultaneously.
napster007
Padawan
Agree. it is only human to explore the unknown!
max_demon
IM AS MAD AS HELL!!
Aberforth
The Internationalist
Every single girl is unique as is any human in the world. My present girl for example, a French white is obsessed with a 'tanned' complexion and thinks my wheatish skin and Goan Mestico looks is 'hot'. Not something you'd expect from the overhyped 'white pride' among Europeans or obsession with fair skin among Indians.
Ultimately the best master to understanding girls is personal experience with girls along with an open mind, you can't expect any kind of popular opinion, 'wisdom' or tips to help you. Unless you are ready to mingle with girls of all types, you are not going to find that perfect girl that you'd want.
The concept that career gets sacrificed by love is as outdated as the idea that sex education encourages teens to have more sex. Love and career are different facets of our life, why do we have to neglect one for the other? The French are among the most romatically and sexually active people in the world; yet it didn't stop them having one of the strongest economy and best human resource pool on earth.
Far more than the "perfectly matched arranged marriage" and "career first" Indians can ever boast of. Or for that matter, even the NRIs working as mental labourers in US and other first world countries. A better career doesn't make for a better person, it is a better all round development of a person which makes a person. Unless Indians get more in touch with their human side, we will always be a third world country where the best minds look for greener pastures outside India.
And faraaz, I agree with you and wish you all the best. By the way I have spent the last year in Suisse and France too. 2 months in Samedan, about a month in Sion and 8 months in Lyon, France.
Just wait till our government or the moral police gets a whiff of this. They'll likely ban the Wikipedia for 'corrupting our studious youths". Sexuality and the other soft sides human nature is a crime in India while molesting, rapes, domestic and paedophile marraiges are completely acceptable unless the victim is a foreigner.
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phreak0ut
The Thread Killer >:)
I'm really glad that this topic didn't topic veer away(much) from focus. @Faraaz-Really good to hear about the way your love and professional life is going. All the very best *gigasmilies.googlepages.com/113.gif I usually move away from long posts, but the posts made by you guys are really interesting and I'm pleased to find that we are all able to handle life so much maturely than what girls think. Well, I got to know a thing or two from the experts *gigasmilies.googlepages.com/10.gif
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