Inter-Religion Marriage possible??

[Extreme Gamer]

Inter-religion marriage is OK in Bangladesh too. It's more of a community acceptance thing (which can also be a concern in India).

Sujoy, you don't know until you ask her.

Don't waste any more time. Ask when you think the right atmosphere is there.

I get a slight feeling that you're actually trolling us and seeing how we respond to such a thread and don't really have a crush or anything on a BD girl (Okay, I'm just messing with ya in this part )

 

[sujoyp]

@Extreme Gamer no bro I really want to marry her...its ok if no one responds here...I will just close the thread thats it ...but I am really finding it difficult to manage things here...there r many things against me
1. Being Hindu
2. Being Indian
3. people may think I will start a relation and run away
4. Bad mouth about Indians coz of too many rape cases in news
5. these guys do not wait a sec after office and run straight back to home...uff its difficult to catch her for a talk.
6. Some kattarwadi people may beat me coz of talking .

its not soo easy

 

[icebags]

we know u are thinking about her all the time, and desperately longing to finalise the marriage, but do us a favour, if, in case, despite the best efforts, result comes out zero, don't do anything in haste, try to face it like a man and look forward toward a new beginning.

its not worth loosing everything before a relationship is even started. *e.deviantart.net/emoticons/s/salute.gif

 

[sujoyp]

icebags u r absolutely right ....and no i am not taking any decesions in haste....i have never been soo cool like i am this time

btw i got a nice news from her that she wants to come to India for MBA after april ...soo god have given me a fare chance to help her and in india everything is easier
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aah another chance failed that other sir says its a personal matter and you have to talk directly ...now I will have to rethink again

 

[vickybat]

aah another chance failed that other sir says its a personal matter and you have to talk directly ...now I will have to rethink again

Who's this "other sir" sujoy ?

 

[sujoyp]

@vickybat they are the people who are bit libral and may help me

I think its nearly impossible now...I will just have some patience and wait for right time to tell her

 

[vickybat]

@vickybat they are the people who are bit libral and may help me

I think its nearly impossible now...I will just have some patience and wait for right time to tell her

Hmm i see. I don't think its wise to keep delaying and think the right time would just arrive. The time will be right when you want it to be.
Weekends will be perfect. Just plan some short outing ( figure something out) and tell her what you have in mind. This way, i don't think you'll land in any trouble.

 

[sujoyp]

problem is I have support of just no one back in family...mom dad are just ok but not much enthusiastic, cousin sisters says No , other family members although are not much important but will create problems...
still I have just enough motivation left (after all demotivating thoughts by people of bangladesh and family in india) that I may just try one last time.
I am looking for a new job in India and as soon as I get one I will tell her all I think.. untill that will wait (will have 1 months notice period here after resigning) ...

 

[Renny]

Hindu woman marries a muslim guy = The Hindu must convert, else the marriage is not recognized for muslims.
Hindu man marries a muslim girl = The Hindu must convert, else the marriage is not recognized for muslims.

This is what happens MOST of the times in a Hindu-muslim marriage, and this is something I cannot accept.
Why can't it be the other way round?
Why not give importance to the relationship/love between the two people, instead of bringing in conversion into it?

@Sujoy - Please take time to think things through, you may now be very happy and blissful since you're in love, but RELIGION will crop up and complicate things (Like what religion your kids will follow etc.)

 

[vickybat]

problem is I have support of just no one back in family...mom dad are just ok but not much enthusiastic, cousin sisters says No , other family members although are not much important but will create problems...
still I have just enough motivation left (after all demotivating thoughts by people of bangladesh and family in india) that I may just try one last time.
I am looking for a new job in India and as soon as I get one I will tell her all I think.. untill that will wait (will have 1 months notice period here after resigning) ...

Sujoy, i don't think your parents or relatives will allow you to convert. Things will become far too complicated before you realize.
I can absolutely understand your feelings, but there are some rules. Even if she says "Yes", what would you plan to do thereafter?

You're even saying your parents aren't that enthusiastic about this. They just want you to be happy.
I think you should consider everything.

 

[Extreme Gamer]

**** the rules. First ask her. All the problems can be dealt with after that.

Why worry about problems before they happen. It's funny how the girl in question is completely aloof about what is going on...

Give me her email address. I will send this thread to her

Spoiler

I'm joking about the email address bit.

 

[sujoyp]

@renny I discussed that thing in detail and in muslim religion conversion is totally prohibited....trying may lead to loss of life (as per rule)
I have considered everything...and I have clearly told them that conversion is out of question...in no case its possible
I maybe bit nastik and dont belive in god too much but my parents r my gods and conversion may just lead to a permanent separation from them.

@vickybat ...I can live with no religion or both religion togather...that was the plan

@extremegamer ...I will ask her very soon...and that will be the either end of story of a new start

 

[vickybat]

@vickybat ...I can live with no religion or both religion together...that was the plan

Wait I didn't get this mate. I guess you're saying that you won't convert and her conversion is out of question, because of her being a Muslim.
So what's the problem if either of you don't convert and live together?
According to me, everything boils down to her reply, isn't it? What's her body language like? You should have gotten some hints by now as its been a while.

 

[Extreme Gamer]

Wait I didn't get this mate. I guess you're saying that you won't convert and her conversion is out of question, because of her being a Muslim.
So what's the problem if either of you don't convert and live together?
According to me, everything boils down to her reply, isn't it? What's her body language like? You should have gotten some hints by now as its been a while.

I think he already said he's worried about relatives from either side and society at large causing trouble for the newlyweds.
EDIT: Before telling me that they're unmarried, do note that I'm talking about scenario that can occur after marriage in case she accepts his proposal.

 

[sujoyp]

@vickybat ...if i was in US or europe I would have done what I think was correct...but sadly we live in a country where people love to interfere in others life and even dont mind spoiling it totally.. soo I will take steps cautiously ....I told you guys before that I will tell her before living bangladesh as soon as i get a new job
she wants to come to india for studies and job soo i can help her in that

 

[Extreme Gamer]

Sooo....what happened Sujoy?

 

[ashs1]

According to me, everything boils down to her reply, isn't it? What's her body language like? You should have gotten some hints by now as its been a while.

^this !! i've been wondering if she's interested in you too or not.

have you asked her yet ?? what was her response ??

#bestofluck

 

[sujoyp]

Thanks guys for asking

Actually as I told u guys that I took advice of some liberal guys here...but it seems they all were not that liberal as they seems...somebody told the girl everything and also advised her to keep away from me ...and she unfriend me from skype, facebook and stopped talking to me.
when I tried to talk she answered in one liners ...I wanted support of someone but got something totally opposite...Now nothing could be done

initially I was very angry ..coz without even saying anything I lost...but then I saw everyone in my life happy with it...my family, sisters, friends, colleagues ....

Thank you all for supporting me for soo long...I dont feel like living in bangladesh anymore and will come back in 2-3 months..



And seriously speaking I am not feeling like a looser but I think the girl will be the bigger looser......her bad luck ....a lost opportunity to see the huge world outside there small city..

 

[Kl@w-24]

^ Everything happens for a reason. You'll find someone better (and not as controversial). Chin up.

 

[Allu Azad]

WTF !!! This is just disappointing and sad !