How's your social life/Help with social life.

[the_conqueror]

grow up,dood ;D hehehe

You clean up your brain dude. I don't think everyone has that filth in their brain.

 

[Nanducob]

I meant hair,nw u clean up ur brain

 

[R2K]

Easier said then done.
Sometimes you "need" to be fake. Sometimes you have to say what people "wants" to listen, rather then what the "truth" is. Sometimes you have to give politically correct answers. You have to take care if what you are going to say is going to offend someone or not.
Of course, all of this doesn't matter if the subject in question is a "true" friend. You can be as blunt as you want to be in front of them. But majority of the people are _Not_ your friend. And a lot of them are just mean, selfish people who can back stab you the moment they are given a chance.

Sometimes you have to choose between a social life (where you have to hide your true self) and your own persona (where you are don't have to hide anything). And majority of time the latter choice leads you to seclusion and loneliness...

Source: Personal experience.

I'm not sure if I understand what you are saying. But whats with the word " back stab". You can't expect everyone to always support you actions and emotions. People reacts depending on their current situation and mindset. Their might be a lot of stuff going through their minds and that might be making them act like that with you..

 

[skeletor]

and yea, everyone needs to learn to take somethings as joke.

Helps you a lot.

Somethings can be easily laughed off, but humans choose to make a mess of it.

 

[the_conqueror]

and yea, everyone needs to learn to take somethings as joke.

Helps you a lot.

Somethings can be easily laughed off, but humans choose to make a mess of it.

I told you before na ! All humans are flawed (in different aspects obviously), they make many mistakes, some minor and some major. If they are perfect, then they surely deserve a place better than earth.

 

[Liverpool_fan]

I told you before na ! All humans are flawed (in different aspects obviously), they make many mistakes, some minor and some major. If they are perfect, then they surely deserve a place better than earth.

There's no excuse for repeating the same mistakes, again and again.

 

[the_conqueror]

There's no excuse for repeating the same mistakes, again and again.

Those kinda people regret their mistakes later in their life when it's too late to correct them.

 

[Faun]

Those kinda people regret their mistakes later in their life when it's too late to correct them.

Otherwise I make them regret after 3 consecutive mistakes.

 

[the_conqueror]

Otherwise I make them regret after 3 consecutive mistakes.

I can't resist more than 2.

 

[axes2t2]

whats the point?

It's a trick to make your walk easier.

who wants to make eye contact?there are better things to look for if you know what i mean.

You'll understand when you grow up

 

[R2K]

who wants to make eye contact?there are better things to look for if you know what i mean.

Boy...You need some serious HELP !!
He is asking for help with social life .Not on how to become a perv.

 

[Nanducob]

That was meant to be a joke.and all of a sudden i became the bad guy.

 

[axes2t2]

If you ask someone a question and you get a partial answer just give them a calm stare of silence.They will speak out.

 

[Liverpool_fan]

If you ask someone a question and you get a partial answer just give them a calm stare of silence.They will speak out.

Scary.

 

[R2K]

If you ask someone a question and you get a partial answer just give them a calm stare of silence.They will speak out.

Stare ?
I'm pretty sure that will end up with other person asking " Whats wrong with you ?" . They might even consider you as a weirdo.

 

[axes2t2]

Stare ?
I'm pretty sure that will end up with other person asking " Whats wrong with you ?" . They might even consider you as a weirdo.

See thats because they may have become nervous coz you know it and they know it that they are hiding something from you.

Or else you'll have to practice the stare.

 

[axes2t2]

If you are at a social gathering/party and you get something to drink,keep it in your left hand.

So that if someone approaches you or vice versa or if someone you know introduces you to a person and they offer a handshake,your hand won't be wet/cold.

Those cold handshakes are bad and if you wipe your hand on your jeans/trousers after someone offers a handshake that is just

I don't know with which hand lefties do a handshake with righties.

 

[Liverpool_fan]

You should create a twitter id. @CatAdviser or something.

 

[axes2t2]

Naaaah

 

[Desmond]

I've been having a pretty "crash and burn" ride on the social front lately and I think I have found one of the possible reasons for it. Bollywood music.

For some reason, I get absolutely irritated by it for some reason (possibly because of being a metalhead for around 10 years). But, everyone around me is fully, head over heels, into bollywood music and keep discussing it 24x7 (or perhaps start discussing it when I am around just to piss me off, not sure). No matter how much I listen to it, I cannot find ANY artistic talent in it and do not find it appealing. Since, I do not find it appealing, I have 0% info about who sang what and who danced what, nor do I care about such things.

Consequently, I have to be mum because I cannot participate and I usually ghost walk out of the group. Therefore, I have no one to talk to and no one to discuss anything with. I do not know any therapists or psychiatrists around for advice.

Edit : In the right company I am pretty confident and I can talk comfortably, but since my peers are those who are as described above, I have no choice than to attempt fitting in or to stay completely aloof, risking becoming stereotyped as a freak. My failing attempts are disheartening me and I feel frustrated.