Personally, the best I have played is F22 Air Dominance Fighter and F22 Total Air War, both 10 year old games and still the best, Air War being the successor to Dominance Fighter.
If you really like the fighter simulation factor, Air War can't be beaten, even today.
Check some videos on YT *www.youtube.com/watch?v=lpNC923DeDY&feature=related
For more other games, check combatsim.com
PS: I'm also wishing secretly for someone to bring this game back to life with today's graphics and physics.